As we move into a time of elevated awareness it seems that the way things have been done before is just sometimes not working. One of my favorite phrases is, “if you always do what you’ve always done you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.” In terms of relationships we have to look at the ever increasing divorce rate, the high amount of single parents and rising depression and ask where did we go wrong?
I like to think that oftentimes the most important questions have the simplest answers so long as we’re willing to give them a chance; success in relationships is no different. If you’ve ever read a love poem or watched a Shakespeare play you might be lead to believe that the formula for a successful relationship is simple; it’s two people coming together to make one. We hear this all of the time in wedding vows and love songs, but is it true?
I’m no math expert but I think that if two people come together and make one then what you have are really two partial people. You have two halves of a whole. How can we give 100% if we only have half to give? I’d like to propose that the formula for a successful relationship is in fact a little bit different. I think it’s:
1 + 1 = 3
In this formula we have two complete people, coming together to share their goals, passions and dreams to produce something bigger than the sum of their parts. In this formula both people remain complete in their individuality while coming together to symbiotically offer something special and unique to the world. Relationships like this are composed of two co-pilots rather than a pilot and a passenger.
Research has shown that relationships where two people follow their own passions and goals while complementing the dreams and values of each other have a significantly higher chance of success than those who are simply along for the ride.
In a time of rising divorce rates and preventable heartache will you be looking for a “better half” to fly in circles or a co-pilot break through the clouds?
By Ricky Goodall, Meditation Instructor & Certified Nutrition Coach